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By Eric BeltmannSpecial to Conley MediaAfter setting the over/under at 15 minutes, I lost the wager in my mind: It didn鈥檛 take that long for t…

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Dear Savvy Senior,听My husband and I recently turned 65 and would like to find out which vaccines are recommended and covered by Medicare?

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Dear Annie: The recent letter about giving children experiences instead of things really struck a chord. When the writer said, "One of the mos…

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Dear Annie: I鈥檓 struggling badly with something that occurred over a week and a half ago. I鈥檓 a mom. My son is 15. I鈥檝e been dating a man for two years now, but I鈥檝e known him for over six. He has no kids and has always expressed his interest in becoming a dad.

A year ago, we decided to try for a baby, but I was a bit hesitant considering my son is 15 and I was 35. In my head, that鈥檚 kind of old, particularly for me because I鈥檓 not very healthy. I have sickle cell disease, so I鈥檇 capped my latest age to give birth at 32. He鈥檚 a good man to me, and my son鈥檚 very fond of him. He told me I wouldn鈥檛 have to worry about a thing and that he was preparing for a child for a while now, but it simply didn鈥檛 happen. I also knew he would be a great dad, so we agreed to try, and now I鈥檓 36 and expecting.

My issue is that we had an argument the other day and he texted me that he regretted getting me pregnant. I was so hurt. I couldn鈥檛 believe he would say such a thing after none of his other relationships produced a child. Now I鈥檓 not speaking to him because I鈥檓 very upset, and I told him I will not add his surname to the baby鈥檚 birth certificate if he鈥檚 so regretful. He鈥檚 tried to apologize and reached out to my mom to vent his frustration, but I don鈥檛 want to hear from him. I didn鈥檛 wait 15 years just to have some guy say such a horrible thing to me. Do you think I鈥檓 going too far?

鈥 Baby Blues

Dear Baby Blues: Your feelings are valid and understandable given the hurtful words exchanged. Words, especially in moments of anger, can leave lasting scars. Communication is crucial here. It鈥檚 important to address the hurt and the root cause of the argument to understand whether this was momentary frustration or indicative of deeper problems.

Evaluate the relationship鈥檚 overall health and what future you see with him. Is this a one-off or a red flag? Consider if you can overcome this with time, conversation and possibly counseling. The choice on how to move forward should align with what鈥檚 best for you and your child.

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Dear Savvy Senior,听Does Medicare offer any financial assistance programs to help seniors with their medication costs? I recently enrolled in a Medicare drug plan, but I take some expensive medications that have high out-of-pocket costs and need some help.

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Dear Annie: We have neighbors who reside in a cul-de-sac that is at the rear of our property. Our property is located on a U-shaped halfmile neighborhood, which is ideal for walking. Over time, these neighbors have chosen to repeatedly cut through our property on an almost daily basis to facilitate their walking routine. It鈥檚 gotten to the point where these neighbors act as if they are "entitled" to treat our property as a public gateway from their neighborhood to ours.

I would note that there was a time when we had friendly interactions with these neighbors; but today, they cut through our property and avoid any acknowledgement of us, even when we are outside doing work on our property.

Please give us direction as to how we can politely convey that our property is not a public walkway.

鈥 Not a Cut Through

Dear Cut Through: The real issue here is that they are not asking for your permission to walk on your property. Besides being rude, there is always the possibility that if they are on your property and something happens to them, you could be held liable.

The best way to stop them from walking on your property is to ask them politely not to walk through. You could also do some gardening and plant some nice spring flowers and say you don鈥檛 want them messed up with foot traffic.

Had they asked in the first place, you probably would have been neighborly, but their sense of entitlement makes you not want to. If they ignore your requests, then you should consult an attorney.

Dear Annie: I am a grandma, mammaw and granny to six amazing grandchildren. Two of my three sons have these children. My sons are constantly ignoring me. They treat me like I do not exist.

I raised them by myself after their father tragically passed away. I did my best to give them a great life. They all mean the world to me. I just need a little advice from you on how to find a way to see my grandchildren.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

鈥 Heartbroken Mammaw.

Dear Heart Broken Mammaw: Be patient and continue to reach out to your sons and find out what their needs are. Do they need help with the kids, or are there sporting events you could attend? Tell your sons how much you desire a relationship with your grandchildren. Grandparents can be a very positive influence on grandchildren鈥檚 lives, but the parents have to allow it. Grandparents tend to be more patient and have a little more life experience than parents who are with their children every day.

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"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane鈥檚 second anthology 鈥 featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation 鈥 is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.co m for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@ creators.com.

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Dear Annie: Over the years, I have worked in day care centers for 2-year-olds, and my husband is a speech therapist. I have a family friend who is raising a 2year-old from the community. We see their child continuously and think that he is behind developmentally, especially in speech.

They could hypothetically wait until he is old enough to go to school and, hopefully, the school figures it out, but I have worked with those who have special needs and know that the earlier the intervention, the better the outcome.

The only issue is how to tell the mom that we think they should apply for speech therapy without freaking them out that their child is behind. I just know that with all of these therapies, it may help this child in the future for success. He is an only child.

鈥 Family Friend

Dear Family Friend: I would make doubly sure that you are correct in your diagnosis before you speak with your friend, but once you do, tell your friend your thoughts about the toddler's speech. You and your husband could even offer to help out while you find a good professional, assuming she is up for that. Friends tell friends the truth even if it is difficult. If she is truly a good friend, she will appreciate that you helped her get early intervention.

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"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane鈥檚 second anthology 鈥 featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation 鈥 is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information.

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NEW YORK 鈥 One of the country's leading artist residency programs, MacDowell, has awarded a lifetime achievement prize to Yoko Ono. The groundbreaking artist, filmmaker and musician is this year's recipient of the Edward MacDowell Medal, an honor previously given to Stephen Sondheim and Toni…

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By Eric Beltmann

Special to Conley Media T r芒n Anh H霉ng鈥檚 "The Taste of Things" is no popcorn movie.

Concession stands are downright vulgar compared to the farmhouse kitchen at the center of H霉ng鈥檚 tranquil story about food, art and passion. Set in fin-de-si猫cle rural France, the movie opens with a nearly wordless sequence in which the camera spends half an hour delicately dancing around Dodin, a prominent gourmet chef, and Eug茅nie, his celebrated cook, as they prepare an exquisite meal that will be received by an appreciative company of epicureans.

"The Taste of Things," which screens Friday for a third and final time at the Milwaukee Film Festival (4:30 p.m., Downer Theatre), spurns the whip pans of, say, Hulu鈥檚 "The Bear," choosing to instead extract its ingredients from slow, enchanting gastroclassics like "Babette鈥檚 Feast" and "Big Night." Marked by sensuous colors, natural lighting and rigorous period costumes, the movie鈥檚 autumnal production design reflects the way Dodin and Eug茅nie are meticulous about their process of making elaborate dishes; for them, cooking is an art form, but it鈥檚 also their main language.

When words fail, they speak through food.

There鈥檚 something deeply endearing about the way Dodin and Eug茅nie simultaneously treat recipes, and each other, with reverence. In one vulnerable scene, Dodin scrupulously tailors a table to Eug茅nie鈥檚 palette. The meal is his love letter, of course, which is why he nervously waits for her response. But "The Taste of Things" is more about the constitutional connection 鈥 the mind meld 鈥 between people than simple romance. It knows that relationships can be an art form, too.

Eventually the movie transforms its menu, throwing salt at the viewer in ways that ought not be spoiled. That these turns feel entirely earned owes a great deal to the leads, Beno卯t Magimel and Juliette Binoche. Formerly a real-life power couple, the middle-aged French legends deliver mature, sophisticated performances that seem at ease with the complicated contours of life.

The final passage of "The Taste of Things" presents not one but two perfect closing shots, including a doubled 360degree pan that breathtakingly coalesces H霉ng鈥檚 ideas about what it means to be in harmony, to give and grieve, and to find renewal. Like the gorgeous Vietnamese summer opening to H霉ng鈥檚 "The Vertical Ray of the Sun" 鈥 one of my favorite moments in all of cinema 鈥 it achieves a rare ambrosial effect.

Baked into the Milwaukee Film Festival is FOMO 鈥 for example, foodies who missed the sole screening of "Menus-Plaisirs Les Troisgros," Frederick Wiseman鈥檚 four-hour documentary about a lauded French restaurant, will have to settle for streaming it via PBS 鈥 but fortunately the fest鈥檚 final week offers extra helpings of many key attractions.

(Eric Beltmann teaches film and literature in West Bend. He has written about cinema for print and web outlets since 1991.)

Juliette Binoche and Beno卯t Magimel star as food connoisseurs in Tr芒n Anh H霉ng鈥檚 "The Taste of Things." H霉ng won best director at the 2023 Cannes Film Festival.

Photo courtesy of Milwaukee Film

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The Milwaukee Film Festival started April 11 and runs through April 25. The following are suggestions for each remaining day of the festival.

"We鈥檙e famous!," crow two senior citizens after learning they are the subject of a Silver Alert.

Geezer jokes are pumped intravenously into "Thelma" (7 p.m., Oriental Theatre), an agreeable comedy starring June Squibb as a grandma determined to recover $10,000 from a phone scammer.

While bluntly making its point about retaining agency in late life, "Thelma" cleverly spoofs action spy capers 鈥 one priceless gag involves closing a pop-up ad as if defusing a bomb 鈥 and warmly embraces its characters, including those played by Richard Roundtree, Parker Posey, Clark Gregg and Fred Hechinger, one of our most exciting young actors.

If you can鈥檛 make it to "The Taste of Things" formal dinner, "Late Night with the Devil" (9 p.m., Avalon Theater) offers a spicy midnight snack. Presented as the long-lost recording of a 鈥70s TV talk show that was buried after a live Halloween broadcast turned unholy, this twist on the "found footage" genre sends up the late-night format with considerable period accuracy and gleeful practical effects. It鈥檚 flawed, but there鈥檚 dark art in how it equates supernatural evil with the ratings- seeking malevolence behind every TV鈥檚 glow.

After co-directing "The Little Mermaid," "Aladdin" and "Moana," John Musker retired from Disney in 2018 and decided to make "I鈥檓 Hip," his own handdrawn cartoon. The four-minute result, which was shortlisted for an Oscar, is included in MFF鈥檚 "Shorts: Let鈥檚 Get Animated" program (9 p.m., Avalon Theater).

Featuring an insufferable cat declaring his "hipness" through song and dance, the movie possesses a jazzy, throwback spirit that, for me, made it the clear standout in a collection with no duds.

Twenty years ago I saw "Dig!," Ondi Timoner鈥檚 revealing music documentary about a seven-year span in the lives of Anton Newcombe and Courtney Taylor-Taylor, the respective frontmen for the Brian Jamestown Massacre and the Dandy Warhols. They were neighbors, friends, admirers and bitter rivals. For "Dig! XX" (7:45 p.m., Downer Theatre), a digitallyenhanced anniversary edition, Timoner has added 35 minutes of previously unseen footage.

With back-to-back screenings at the Oriental Theatre, enterprising filmgoers can fashion a "compatriots" double feature of new works made by contemporary Japanese masters. Come for Hirokazu Kore-eda鈥檚 "Monster" (2 p.m.) and stay for "Evil Does Not Exist" (5 p.m.), Ry没suke Hamaguchi鈥檚 follow-up to his Oscarnominated "Drive My Car."

Set in 1992, Minhal Baig鈥檚 "We Grown Now" (7 p.m., Oriental Theatre) sensitively traces the adventures of Malik and Eric, a pair of young best friends living in Chicago鈥檚 Cabrini-Green public housing complex. Some of the dramatic moments falter, but this family affair, screening ahead of its nationwide release on May 10, finds its rhythm when striving for poetry rather than realism.

"Gasoline Rainbow" (9 p.m., Times Cinema), which opens later in May, follows a group of teenagers who drive off to see the Pacific. By hiring non-actors and encouraging improvised scenes, directors Turner Ross and Bill Ross IV have once again blended fiction and nonfiction. Their impressionistic "Tchoupitoulas" was one of my highlights of the 2012 Milwaukee Film Festival, so I鈥檓 eager to see this new film, especially since it鈥檚 been compared favorably to "Easy Rider" and "On the Road."

More straightforward storytelling propels "Io Capitano" (4:30 p.m., Oriental Theatre), an Oscarnominated Italian film about two na茂ve Senegalese boys making a perilous Mediterranean voyage to Europe. This unsparing migrant saga sometimes treads water 鈥 you鈥檝e seen these horrors before 鈥 but director Matteo Garrone injects surprisingly fantastical touches and wisely lets Seydou and Moussa be fully realized people, dreamers and maybe even heroes, rather than object lessons.

The full lineup plus ticket and venue information are online at mkefilm.org/mff.

鈥 Eric Beltmann

Director John Musker filled the cartoon short "I鈥檓 Hip" with more than 120 caricatures of friends and colleagues from his four decades in animation.

Photo courtesy of Milwaukee Film

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Dear Annie: I work in a small office with only four employees and one supervisor. Two of my colleagues and I are coffee drinkers. Instead of starting a coffee fund, we started taking turns bringing in a fresh container when we find the previous one is running low. This system has worked for us and has prevented any issues from arising.

What we do have an issue with is our supervisor helping himself to the coffee without ever offering to chip in for his share. This has been going on for almost a year, and the three of us are really getting fed up. It has gotten to the point where we will purposely get less coffee just so he won鈥檛 have a chance to get any. I realize this might be petty, but I don鈥檛 know how to make him understand that he is taking advantage.

All we want is for him to contribute his fair share.

How can we approach this subject with him? What can we say to make him realize he is in the wrong?

鈥 The Fa"brew"lous Three

Dear Fa"brew"lous Three: The way you signed your letter indicates an exclusive club in which outsiders might not feel welcome. Now, since the troublemaker is your boss, the three of you have to make a decision: Is it worth it to upset your supervisor? If not, then decide in advance that the three of you will pay for him.

But if you really resent that 鈥 because it is unfair 鈥 then I would suggest putting a coffee plan for the office in writing and asking everyone who drinks coffee, including the supervisor, to participate. The plan should be impersonal: If three workers participate, the cost 鈥 or responsibility for bringing a container 鈥 will be so much, and if four people participate, the cost per person will be that much less. If he refuses to participate and continues to drink your coffee, then you can either tell him to cut it out or report his behavior to his boss.

The main thing is to keep it impersonal. Don鈥檛 attack him for being a mooch.

Just lay out the numbers for everyone to see.

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Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Donna," who lives in another state. We鈥檝e been friends for three years. Due to past trauma of being cheated on, I have trust issues, not just in relationships but friendships as well. I鈥檝e damaged and even lost a few friends because of these issues.

Donna is an introvert and doesn鈥檛 want to talk all the time. I鈥檓 more extroverted. When she says she can鈥檛 or doesn鈥檛 want to talk, I have doubts about our friendship and it causes fights between us. It hurts because I know she鈥檚 a true friend, but I struggle to bring myself to trust her because I think about what I鈥檝e experienced before.

Truth be told, ever since I moved, I鈥檝e missed having a true friend who鈥檚 close by. Making friends where I moved to has been a struggle. I鈥檝e tried counseling, but it is expensive. I want to go, but affording it is a challenge. I dislike where I moved from but miss the hell out of my friend. Please help.

鈥 Lonely in Wyoming

Dear Lonely: Don鈥檛 take Donna鈥檚 introversion too personally.

Everyone has different communication styles, and just because yours don鈥檛 exactly match doesn鈥檛 mean she doesn鈥檛 still love and value your friendship. Let her know how much you miss her and how you鈥檝e been struggling in isolation after your move. Suggest that you set a standing date 鈥 once a week or every other 鈥 for a phone call or FaceTime to catch up and keep in touch.

As for settling in in your new city, put your extroversion into volunteering, joining a club or hitting some local scenes to meet people who share your interests.

There might also be online therapy or low-cost counseling near you that鈥檚 more affordable than the options you鈥檝e already looked into.

Remember that growth takes time. Be gentle with yourself.

Dear Annie: I wanted to take a moment and let you know how much I enjoy your column; I think you give the best responses to your readers. I do not have a question, but rather some valuable advice for your readers.

You see, I grew up in a home with a toxic marriage modeled by my parents. I remember being about 10 when my mom found out about my dad鈥檚 affair and we rode around with a baseball bat, searching for the "other woman."

Fast forward, they just celebrated 50 years together, and my dad calls me complaining about my mom, and my mom calls me complaining about my dad. I am frankly TIRED of it. If you are in a bad marriage, consider this your approval to end it. I married a man who my counselor said was cut from the same cloth as my mom. It is true! We model and are drawn to it and don鈥檛 even realize it.

My mom always taught me that you stay no matter what. I am about to graduate college and will be a social worker. I am so excited to empower/teach others to end what does not serve them. Love is not enduring unlimited abuse, and you don鈥檛 get a trophy for the years you stay. This really damages the children; they typically grow up modeling the same stuff they鈥檝e seen, and when you put them in the middle, it sucks! The more I heal, the more dysfunction I see.

鈥 Willing to Walk

Dear Willing: Thank you for your letter and wise words. I鈥檓 sorry to hear about all the traumas you鈥檝e experienced but am glad they have given you such a strong sense of self-worth and awareness of what you deserve. I agree it鈥檚 so important to protect ourselves, our mental peace and overall well-being. Here鈥檚 to letting go of the things that do not serve us.

Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.

Dear Annie runs daily in the newspaper.

"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane鈥檚 second anthology 鈥 featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation 鈥 is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing. com for more information.

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MILWAUKEE 鈥 While most teenagers premiere their videos in front of family squeezed onto the living room couch, Zach Church will debut his latest movie on the big screen in front of hundreds of filmgoers.

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Dear Annie: I am 76 years old, have taught school for over 40 years and have given thousands of lessons in the classroom. I have officiated for more than 50 years, preached for over 20 years and given hundreds of sermons, including at funerals and weddings.

But the main issue I have had since I was 8 years old is sweating profusely when feeling enclosed or trapped or when highly anxious. It started in front of the class in fourth grade.

My parents took me to doctors, going out to a big hospital in Minnesota, and tried hypnotism, therapy, pills and so many other things. No one can figure it out.

If it is cold enough or windy enough, if there are fans going or if the speech is short in time, then I feel safer. I鈥檓 not sure if this is fixable ever, but maybe?

I have spent lots of time and money and gotten myself into such a lather looking ahead to what I have to do. I am wondering if there is any way out of this.

I鈥檝e tried everything else, and I am writing to you to ask how others have handled this.

鈥 Lifetime Sweating

Dear Lifetime: I鈥檓 going to print your letter to see if others have solutions for you. In the meanwhile, I would recommend that you read a great book called 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. The book addresses the issue of traumas that are hidden in the body and can have physical symptoms when not dealt with psychologically.

Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.

Dear Annie runs daily in the newspaper. "How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane鈥檚 second anthology 鈥 featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation 鈥 is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information.

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Dear Annie:听I鈥檝e recently reconnected with a former coworker with whom I had lost track of after her first husband committed suicide. She divorced her second husband when she found him in bed with another woman. She has an adult son from her second marriage.